Marlina
03-11-2010, 11:08 PM
I made the mistake at first by getting angry at my boyfriend because he did not want me to contine with the pregnancy once we found out the baby had a gentic abnormality. And boy was that rough! we fought and fought and I couldn't understand why he did not love his child. That was at 4 months and now I'm 8 months. My baby has Trisomy 18 and things are lot better between my boyfriend and I. I came to the realization that he is going to grieve in his own way differnt from me and that does not make it wrong or bad. Men just find it hard to talk about their feelings. Everytime we had an ultra sound and seen another problem he would cry and I would hurt to see him like that. See they do care! We opted for no more ultra sounds and now we are just waiting for our son Adan Julian to arrive. Still born or alive we are going to make the best of what God gives us. Take pictures make those family memories thats all you can do.
Once you stop being angry at yourself and your partner that is when the both of you can come together; to be their for each other because who else better knows what your going through than each other.
Once you stop being angry at yourself and your partner that is when the both of you can come together; to be their for each other because who else better knows what your going through than each other.