Tammy
08-22-2006, 09:33 PM
I would like to share an email I received from a mom in my area. She gave me the ok to post this, and I think she has some very good points.
[W]e had a baby girl, Regina, who was stillborn three days before she was due. [Our]Dr was so helpful to me as I was going thru the trauma and after, but he only lived six weeks after the death of Regina for he had a heart attack. I know of the sadness you feel. It seems as mothers we get attached to our baby as soon as we suspect that we may be pregnant. That is love! We shall always miss our loved ones. The feelings of love as deep as a mother has will never go away; they may not be as strong though as the years go by.
I will never, I hope, never forget what a dear grandmother friend of mine told me. "If I only know the happiness my baby felt in heaven, I would never long for her." Just think your sweet child, Chase, never has to fall down to scrape his knee or cry for momma. He is in heaven with the Savior. Chase has accomplished his goal in life. God needed him to help win souls. Chase can intercede for you from heaven. As often as I think of my dear Regina in heaven, I have found it helpful to ask her to help me with my motherly needs. She answers so quickly. It is truly a blessing to have her in heaven. I want her to help get all 7 of us into heaven.
I have not belonged to a support group; sometimes I wish I had for the first two years were pretty hard. The hardest times were when a friend or relative had a baby. In a close knitf riendship group of families, five of us were expecting a baby all around the same time. Even though Regina was my sixth living child to be, I was so excited. She was due December 10, 2000, a jubiliee year. I was sad, angry, depressed, miserable but it got me no where. I found prayers, church friends, working on a scap book for her, setting up a corner in remembrance of her in the house, planting an apple tree given on her behalf, etc. All this helped. I visit her grave when I long for her and every Sunday. All kinds of things helped. On the anniversary of her birth/death, we had a birthday party for her. As a group we went to church together then came to our home for a dinner with a birthday cake. Of course we sang happy birthday to her! We looked at the photo album I started. I saved everything I had about her since the hospital pictures did not turn out. I have only two picutres of her. She had a black streak across her red face. She died in the birth canal with the cord wrapped around her three times.
I do knot know why God took her. I just need to know he wanted her. He needs her. He is the omnipotent one. He knows all. I do so wish we could have another one, but now I am just a couple of months from turning 50. Perhaps one day I could adopt a baby. I always wished God could just give me another one without going thru a pregnancy. But that is not realistic.
Express all the tears, feelings, sadness. If you hold back, it is very heart breaking. I did that a few times trying to be strong and I paid heavily for it. I found a good homeopath doctor who has helped me emotionally and physically thru all the eents that happened to me. Without her and my faith I do know know how I could have survived with such a great loss.
Oh, a natropath doctor also helped me thru conversations. She told me a hormone needs to be released. This hormone is released during the dark night of the night, but you acquire it thru sunshine. Many hours of time are needed to walk in the sunshine before 10 am. I was told to walk everyday for 30 to 60 minutes, listen to soft music, treat myself, watch the foods I ate, etc. If you want this list, I can get it for you. Do you know already what hormone I am talking about?
I checked out your website on the id card. Oh, what beautiful pictures of your baby. It makes me miss Regina all over again. Treasures those pictures. May Chase answer your every prayer.
With love and prayers,
Chris Rockers
[W]e had a baby girl, Regina, who was stillborn three days before she was due. [Our]Dr was so helpful to me as I was going thru the trauma and after, but he only lived six weeks after the death of Regina for he had a heart attack. I know of the sadness you feel. It seems as mothers we get attached to our baby as soon as we suspect that we may be pregnant. That is love! We shall always miss our loved ones. The feelings of love as deep as a mother has will never go away; they may not be as strong though as the years go by.
I will never, I hope, never forget what a dear grandmother friend of mine told me. "If I only know the happiness my baby felt in heaven, I would never long for her." Just think your sweet child, Chase, never has to fall down to scrape his knee or cry for momma. He is in heaven with the Savior. Chase has accomplished his goal in life. God needed him to help win souls. Chase can intercede for you from heaven. As often as I think of my dear Regina in heaven, I have found it helpful to ask her to help me with my motherly needs. She answers so quickly. It is truly a blessing to have her in heaven. I want her to help get all 7 of us into heaven.
I have not belonged to a support group; sometimes I wish I had for the first two years were pretty hard. The hardest times were when a friend or relative had a baby. In a close knitf riendship group of families, five of us were expecting a baby all around the same time. Even though Regina was my sixth living child to be, I was so excited. She was due December 10, 2000, a jubiliee year. I was sad, angry, depressed, miserable but it got me no where. I found prayers, church friends, working on a scap book for her, setting up a corner in remembrance of her in the house, planting an apple tree given on her behalf, etc. All this helped. I visit her grave when I long for her and every Sunday. All kinds of things helped. On the anniversary of her birth/death, we had a birthday party for her. As a group we went to church together then came to our home for a dinner with a birthday cake. Of course we sang happy birthday to her! We looked at the photo album I started. I saved everything I had about her since the hospital pictures did not turn out. I have only two picutres of her. She had a black streak across her red face. She died in the birth canal with the cord wrapped around her three times.
I do knot know why God took her. I just need to know he wanted her. He needs her. He is the omnipotent one. He knows all. I do so wish we could have another one, but now I am just a couple of months from turning 50. Perhaps one day I could adopt a baby. I always wished God could just give me another one without going thru a pregnancy. But that is not realistic.
Express all the tears, feelings, sadness. If you hold back, it is very heart breaking. I did that a few times trying to be strong and I paid heavily for it. I found a good homeopath doctor who has helped me emotionally and physically thru all the eents that happened to me. Without her and my faith I do know know how I could have survived with such a great loss.
Oh, a natropath doctor also helped me thru conversations. She told me a hormone needs to be released. This hormone is released during the dark night of the night, but you acquire it thru sunshine. Many hours of time are needed to walk in the sunshine before 10 am. I was told to walk everyday for 30 to 60 minutes, listen to soft music, treat myself, watch the foods I ate, etc. If you want this list, I can get it for you. Do you know already what hormone I am talking about?
I checked out your website on the id card. Oh, what beautiful pictures of your baby. It makes me miss Regina all over again. Treasures those pictures. May Chase answer your every prayer.
With love and prayers,
Chris Rockers