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Scott Hays
10-13-2006, 12:22 PM
I swear, some times it doesn't start until November, sometimes it starts earlier. This year it's obviously earlier. Lindsey's birthday isn't until November 23, but I've started thinking about her more and more recently.

Here's the catch though. It isn't a bad thing this year. At least not at this point. It's kind of, well, happy thoughts. Getting to know all of you over this last year had made this a different mind set for me. I know that Lindsey has so many friends to play with, so many little friends to watch over. I can place these friends with names now. There's Maddux, Chase, Cydney Paige, Kendall, and so many others that I can't begin to list. There are those that I've photographed that have given me solice. I know Lindsey has been there through my sessions giving me strength and the ability to do my best.

Lindsey is such an important part of my life. I find myself talking to her on a daily basis. It isn't sad talk, it's more of a just letting her know what's been going on, letting her know how Kaley, her sister, is doing in her swim meets, seeing if Lindsey can't maybe help propell her through the water just a little faster. Making sure that her brother Zach doesn't get into to much trouble. He's going into the Navy in February, so we want to make sure he stays safe. I guess you could say they are little prayers to her. Other times they are just little conversations to her.

I wonder what a 20 year old girl would want for her birthday. It would be a hard one that's for sure. There's still that question of what would she be doing. I don't think that question will ever go away. It just changes a little as time goes by. You think of different scenarios with each passing year.

I just wanted to share that because of this forum, and because of all of you sharing your stories, that it's looking like this years birthday might be easier than it's been in I don't know how long. So thank you for sharing, as hard as it's been for you. I hope others can benefit as I have.

Bless you all

Scott

Karla
10-13-2006, 11:13 PM
Scott,
It's always a comfort to read your posts. I actually feel relieved to know that you still talk to Lindsey, because I talk to Cydney Paige even more now. She is my constant companion. I ask her to help me, talk to her brother when he's mean to me and to love her Dad when he's stressed out. I am happy that your thoughts of Lindsey this time around has a more happy tone, I believe that I have now begun my journey and as my baby's first birthday is coming up I am pushing hard against time and wishing that I could reverse it.
My love to you and your family.
And a happy birthday to Lindsey from now.
I know that she takes good care of our little ones, please ask her to tell Cydney Paige how much I love her when she tucks her in, and to make sure that she keeps her hat on her head.
PS. do you think you can ask Lindsey if Cydney Paige has curly hair like her mom?
Love and warmest wishes
Karla

Sandy "Sam" Puc'
10-15-2006, 09:54 AM
Hi Scott,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. (I miss our little chats!) It is a comforting thought to imagine Lindsey helping with all of our littleones. I am sure she is enjoying the work.
By the way, Lindsey has the greatest gift a 20 year old could ever have, a father that loves her and keeps her in his heart at all times. No gift is greater than that my friend....
Hugs,
Sam

Tammy
10-26-2006, 11:16 AM
Scott,
I have an image~
I picture your Lindsey in heaven sitting under an oak tree in the middle of a quiet, beautiful garden that has flowers of every color imaginable. She is writing in her journal about how proud she is of her dad. As she writes, her smile broadens across her beautiful face~she loves you, she is always with you.
I think you have already given Lindsey the most precious birthday gift you could ever give to her~ the gift of keeping her close to your heart, the gift of remembrance, the gift of sharing her memory with other people and the gift of a father's devotional love for his daughter.
As Sam said... there is no greater gift.
:o

Tasha Nicholls
10-31-2006, 01:32 PM
Scott,

Haven't seen you post lately... just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you. Hoping that you're still thinking good thoughts about Lindsey playing in Heaven and watching over all her new little angel babies.

Take care