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Scott Hays
11-21-2006, 10:20 PM
I don't know if I necessarily need a shoulder right now... Well, a little bit. Most of you know that Lindsey's birthday is two days away. She's my little turkey this year. At 20, she probably wouldn't be amused to be called "my little turkey". At any rate, so today I had a session (I'm a NILMDTS photographer) and as soon as I got the call, it dawned on me that we lost Lindsey two days before Thanksgiving. Going to the hospital, thoughts of that day 20 years ago kept filling my mind. I got to the maternity ward, and almost couldn't walk in. My legs were almost jello. When I did go into the room, there was this precious little boy with his mother. I couldn't stop looking. It brought back so many memories. I did my job and left. I got home, and have been in a bit of a daze since then. Later on today, I had another NILMDTS mother come by to pick up her images. It broke my heart to see the tears flow from her eyes. I know how much the images we have of Lindsey mean to us, I just hope the the images I have provided will bring the same peace not only to the family who I presented images to, but to all the families that I find myself helping out.
I've been doing really well this year. 99% of that I attribute to this forum. The wonderful people I've met here, and the laughter I've received in those hard times. With Lindseys birthday so close, I find myself withdrawing a little, but nothing like a have in the past.
Thank you to all that have come to this forum. If you know it or not, your stories have certainly helped me, and I'm sure that if they've helped me after 20 years, they are helping those who have just lost their prescious little angels. Write about it, read about it, do whatever is in your heart. There's a lot of love going on around here. (Ok, don't let it out that I'm an old softy, it will ruin my reputation)

So in two days, we'll be opening Lindsey's birthday presents (yup she still gets them) and I'll smell the roses that I got for her today, and then I'll chow down on some turkey, and lay down and dream of her playing....and Maddux chasing her around....and.......... (you have to find and read Cheryls post)

B Storm
11-21-2006, 11:55 PM
Scott,

You are certainly an amazing testimony to me. How lucky your children are to have you. It is going to be our first holiday without our baby. It is encouraging to my husband and I to know that others have walked these same steps. My arms ache because they are so empty. My heart and mind feel at ease knowing that Lindsay is holding our Sammy.

Erica Stone
11-25-2006, 12:49 PM
We are lucky to have you, Scott - your words of wisdom are always so open and deliberate. I admire your dedication to this organization and to the families that come after yours in loss. Thank you for being so candid - I know it has helped me a great deal.

B Storm
11-26-2006, 01:46 AM
Scott,
I wanted let you know that you helped my family and I get through our first Thanksgiving. We had a big family Thanksgiving dinner. It was a little overwhelming. No one asked about our son, I think that they were afraid to.
Every time that I started to miss my Sammy, I thought of Lindsay rocking him. I know that statement must sound nuts, but it brought me much comfort. Hallelujah! one holiday down, one to go! I am so thankful for all of our Angel babies and families. I am looking foward to meeting all of Sammys friends some day. Thanks Again!

Brooke Storm

Sandy "Sam" Puc'
11-26-2006, 09:46 AM
Scott,
Gosh WE LOVE You!!! I think you are one of the most remarkable people, you always give us great insight and remind us that love lasts forever. Your strength has comforted many and helped them understand that they are not alone.
Hugs to you my friend!
Sam

Kirk Kief
11-26-2006, 10:02 AM
Scott,
Say Hi to Cheryl for me. She's right next to you on the same pedestal that I place both of you on!