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littlerobbiesangels
01-16-2007, 12:58 PM
I have recently found this board and am so touched by everyone's care and concern. We recently lost our first born son, we call him little Robbie (he is a Jr.). During our 12 week ultrasound, drs found what they thought was an omphalocele (hernia of bowel) and that is where our journey began...several drs appts and weeks later, we were asked at every appt whether we wanted to terminate the pg because of several severe conditions including a heart defect, hyrdocephalus, curved spine, missing kidney...Robbie would need to endure several surgeries upon birth. We didn't know what the outcome would be but because we had endured fertility problems and fought hard for this child, we would continue to fight for him. I ended up delivering him at 33 weeks because his increasing head size due to the hydrocephalus put our healths at even greater risk. Imagine our surprise and to our delight, Robbie came into the world crying and swirming around. That was one of my prayers answered. His spinal problem turned out to be a condition where his chest cavity and some of his ribs hadn't grown with him so his little chest was not able to accomodate his growing lungs. He did not have lung capacity to endure the surgeries he needed to correct his heart defect and hyrdocephalus. He was also missing 1 kidney and his remaining kidney was too small and not functioning. Our whole family stayed with him in the NICU for the 13 hours and 26 minutes we had with him here on earth. We were able to hold him while he was still alive and touch his face, hands, toes, body and see that he looked just like his daddy! Another one of my prayers answered.

We did not know about your organization prior to his birht but someone in our family took the initiative to take lots of pictures with our $100 digital camera which we just bought the week before. We have a lot of pictures that have now become our most prized possessions. We have several pictures displayed around our house - I have one right beside my bed which I talk to every morning, throughout the day and every nite. These pictures really are something that keeps his memory alive.

Another way that we decided to keep Robbie's memory alive is through the establishment of a foundation that provides gifts of inspirational children's books to read to unborn children of expectant parents continuing on with a poor prenatal diagnosis pregnancy. We are still in the creation phase of the foundation but are looking for ways to get hooked up with people that might benefit from our foundation.

My husband and I started reading 2 children's books (one talks about heaven and the other the love between a parent and child) to Robbie starting in my 18th week of pregnancy (a time when research says babies can begin hearing sounds outside the womb). We were fortunate to be able to read to Robbie one last time in the NICU which helped us feel we prepared Robbie for heaven. We are looking to provide support to families who are enduring the unknown of pregnancy but also offer hope that families can bond and enjoy the time they have with their children before they are born.

Thanks for taking the time to listen to my story.
Joanne

Melinda Butler
01-16-2007, 02:02 PM
Joanne~
little robbie is a lucky boy to have been blessed with you for a mom :)

peace~
mindy

Kelly Story
01-16-2007, 04:59 PM
Thank you for sharing your story. I love the idea about the books. I read to my little ones, too.
God bless,

Scott Hays
01-17-2007, 04:03 PM
Many years after losing my Lindsey, I still talk to her. Her picture is still a comfort to me. I know that Robbie will always be there for you and your husband and family. I'm glad that you have your images to remember him by. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

Scott

erinm
01-21-2007, 12:51 AM
Joanna,
If you are looking for ways to get hooked up with people that would benefit from the organization that you are starting, I have many ideas. My son was diagnosed with trisomy 18 and i too decided to continue on with the pregnancy. I have a few resources of organizations for trisomy related conditions that might be interested.
There is a trisomy 18 foundation at www.trisomy18support.org (http://www.trisomy18support.org)
For the trisomy 18 foundation you would have to email the peole in charge and then they could add you to their list of resources possibly.

and also another general trisomy listserve for all trisomy related conditions. If you want to email me I can give you more information. You could post on there to let people know of your organization. I am not sure if you are trying to keep your organization local or if you would go national and send out books.

Anyhow, there are many mothers through these two sites, that choose to carry to term despite "fatal" diagnosis.

Erin
mom to Tyler 3/3/06 t-18 angel

tinantravis
01-24-2007, 10:12 AM
JoAnne--
What a story and what a inspiration you are! Your foundation sounds amazing and as a teacher, I love that you see the value and power of books! It's amazing what words on a piece of paper can do for the soul and the mind. Thanks for sharing little Robbie's story...amazing. Take Care and keep us updated about the foundation. God Bless!