Signing letters/cards

[Jordan]

I was wondering what is 'proper' in signing cards - birthday/letters - xmas...etc, that I send out when there is a stillborn or child that has died later. We had Jordan (stillborn) do I add her or not. Do I just sign the Israels family? Tim, Kim and Alex. I am guessing it is whatever I want but I was wondering if anyone has come across this. Any thoughts?

[Tammy]

You could sign as baby angel Jordan, our little angel Jordan... what ever you feel comfortable with. She will always be a part of your family.

[Jessi Hill]

I signed cards with Tristan's name and a little symbol (angels wing and halo) in front of the T. Some people didn't like it some loved the idea.... I really do not care, he was, is and always will be my baby & part of our family. I do not say anything about our miscarriages however being that I never formally names them due to them being so early (9-10 wks)
But that is just me.... it is up to each person what they feel comfortable doing.

[Kelly Story]

Our friends who lost their son Kaleb at 19 months always sign things like this
JP, Julie, *, Hayden and Rylan. My signature includes ^j^ to represent my first child. I feel that it is completely a choice that should be made by the family. If it bothers others, then so be it. Your child is still part of your family.

Smiles,

[Janeice]

I had the same dilema when I was filling out my Christmas cards this last year. I did receive negative feed back from those who were offended and none whom werent. I signed my son's name next to a stamp that was mini foot prints. I also included in the card a briefing of my story so people understood what the foot prints were all about. I also apologized to the people recieving the cards if they were offended, but that they needed to know that this was my way of dealing with my loss.
Just don't feel like you need to worry about what people might think because, they are not the people that deal with the loss first hand like a mother, father and siblings do. Whats important that you continue to do the things that help you heal. For me just the recognition that my child existed was a big help in dealing with my emotions. I hope this finds you at peace. We all understand. Thanks for reaching out, confirms for me that I am not the only one pondering such "simple" things!.
Take Care,
Janeice