To grieving parents new or old

[Scott Hays]

As the parent who has lost a child, I know how hard it is to sometimes talk about it. The grief sets in, and you feel like no one can possibly understand. You are right that no one can possibly understand the level of your loss. It's unimaginable to us. What we can do here at the NILMDTS is to empathise with your loss.
If you are a new parent, and are just looking through the forum, please consider joining us. There are many ears to listen, hearts that have been in the same situation, in the same place as you are. When there are times you just don't feel friends or family won't understand your loss, this might be the place to come to. You can talk (type) until your heart is content, no matter how long ago you lost your child. The parents on this forum are the most caring, fostering people I have ever had the pleasure to meet. They know what to say, when to say it, or if it should be said. Sometimes we know that there isn't anything to be said, that you just needed to vent.
As the grandparent, or even sibling of the child, we understand your pain as well. We want to hear from you. Sometimes you may feel as you are left behind, but we know that you are affected by this loss as well. You to are welcome.
Even if you choose not to join, please come back and visit, over time there will be more posts that may help you. Someday you may feel like you can come here and become part of our organization, and be able to help out another parent.
In the mean time, please take care, and know there are people here that care. We hope to hear from you.

Sincerely
Scott Hays
Father of Lindsey Breanna (Born November 23, 1986)

[Angela B]

Thankyou Scott for sharing!!!

[Terri Shaver]

We lost our daughter Lindsey Johanna on September 3, 1981 and sometimes it feels like yesterday....yes, I've had 3 other children since and they are grown and in college. But, that doesn't diminish the thoughts I have about Lindsey. I STILL think about what she would look like, what she would be doing and whether I'd be planning a wedding now. As I read all the stories of the photographers own experiences or the families they've photographed, I remember afresh our day and our loss. It never goes away, it just gets easier. So, to those of you whos losses are fresh...take the time you need to greive, talk about your babies and remember them at birthdays, and holidays. Have special ornaments for them, plant trees or flowers in their memory, and never let anyone tell you to "move on." It will get easier, but they will always be in our hearts and memories and you'll never forget.
Blessings to all of you who have experienced this loss, whether new or old... we will be reunited again!

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.

[B Storm]

Scott,

Two words come to mind when I read your story. Thankful and Hopeful. I am thankful that you and others are so willing to share your experience.
It gives my husband David and I strength and reassurance to know that others have been through the same things that we have been through. We know that by reading your stories and others that we will make it. Even when its extremely difficult, and the pain is do deep. :( Thanks for letting me share.