Evan's Story

[cheryl]

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[Brooke]

Hi Cheryl,

Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story of Evan's life with us all here at NILMDTS. I'm am so sorry for the loss of your baby son. I know the pain all too well. I delievered our stillborn daughter Emma last October at 24 weeks along due to Fetal Hydrops. You will find comfort here with all of us. Whenever you need any support just come to us and you will find it. Take care of yourself and your family and please know that you are in my prayers.

Love,
Brooke
Mommy to Carter, Ethan, and Angel Emma

PS. It does feel good to acknowledge our third children regardless if they are with us physically or not. Our precious baby angels with always be with us, they are who we are now and forever.

PSS: Where the medical doctors able to tell you the reason why Evan passed away in uetro? If your willing to share that with us, if not, no problem.

[Katelyn Colleen]

Dear Cheryl and family~

Thank you for sharing your story. I continue to find peace in knowing how much these children were loved. May your family find moments of healing through God's grace. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Molly Mathison
Mother to John (2) and Katelyn (angel)

[Lindzy Foster]

i am so sorry for the loss of your son Evan, thank you for sharing his story with us...
Lindzy

[Kerry]

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I do feel some of your pain knowing to find out in a ultrasound your baby has no heartbeat. I had somewhat of the same experience and going through all the emotions of not believing it, if only you turn to your side that the baby will wake up you just think he or she is sleeping and he will start to move. I know my last emotion was what have I done? I do hope they are able to find answers for you . If I would of never known how my baby passed away would of ate me up inside. Luckily I stayed strong and kept asking for answers it did take a few weeks but I got them. I was blessed to have my baby daughter up to 32 weeks and have ultrasound picture galore with her and her twin sister. She is always a part of us and I am always proud to show her picture when people ask. It has been two years and I had a suprise and was able to have another baby. So now I have a household full. My oldest is 6 years old(Olivia) and Sarah is 2 years old and Lane is 7 months old. I still catch myself on certain days driving into work thinking about her and how much I miss her and all the what if's. Its ok to go through the emotions today or even in five years. I have gotten comfort from just being at this website for a short time and finding other parents that have gone through what I have. If you have any questions or just want to talk I would love to listen! Take Care of yourself and your family and know people are always thinking of you!

Kerry Newton

[cheryl]

Thank Kerry, Brooke and Lindzy, it is a comfort to know that my range of feelings and emotions are normal. We received all of Evan's genetics and my testing--placenta, umbilical cord and blood work up and everything was normal. The doctors said everything with him was perfect. It was good to hear this news on one hand, but so hard to hear on the other. WHY??? WHY??? We chose not to have an autopsy, we just felt his little body had been through so much at that time... Sometimes, I question, would it have given us answers....

Thanks again,
Cheryl

[Deb Stoner]

So many times an autopsy doesn't provide the answers either. You made the right choice for your little guy at the time. I hear so many parents second guess either choice. I have done the same.

[Kerry]

I am so sorry you did not find the answer to WHY... My autopsy showed not the reasoning of how she died either. Thank goodness we have one of the best placenta pathologist in the family. The workup they did in SD they did NOT find all the findings they needed. He had found them when the slides were given to him. He said its hard there is not enough placenta patholigist in the United States , I think I remember correctly he said 30 and he trust 3 that are excellent. He said most people just havent had the experience enough to know what to look for. If you are satisified with the results that is all that matters. If you want more answers I can certainly get in contact with him and see if he knows anything else they should be looking for. I am glad he found the answers for me. I was able to have my last child and go to term. IT was very scary for me but it did help me heal knowing I was able to complete my family. Right now your going through ups and down and WHY! When your ready or just need to talk I would be glad to help. A book my cousin gave me was Empty Cradle, Broken Heart Surviving the Death of your baby. By Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D. They had lots of stories about others that might be familiar with your situation. Keep me posted sometimes answers just dont pop out it takes time and going under the layers to find the real answer. You will know whats best for your family. I support your decision either way! Take Care.