They say it gets better with time

[carissa13]

I am new to posting messages, I hope I'm doing it right. I had my sweet boy 5 days ago. He lived for a little more than an hour. He is so beautiful but God did not intend him to have life on earth but in Heaven. I miss him so much and hear the stupid words echoing in my head, in time it will get better. I know it time it will get better but what do I do right now. I did not know my heart could hurt so bad.
I've decided that I may feel better talking with others that know my pain because I know you will be the only ones that will truly understand.

[calvin's mother]

Dear Carissa13, we are here for you Honey please call me any time of day or nite I really hope you do My name is Leah my screen name is CALVIN'SMOTHER...YOU CAN CALL ME ...h.952-322-5714 c.612-269-5953
so please call me any time,,,,HUGS

[Jordan]

We are here for you. We will give each other support day or night. I am from Blaine, MN. Feel free to private message me or email me. Thinking of you. Your precious little boy is with my precious little Jordan and all our Heavenly Angles. They are playing together as we are together in the journey that God has given us. Lean on us. Someday we all will find some answers to easy the pain.
Kim

[Lyssa Sauer]

Carissa I have only been on here for a couple of months and there is no right or wrong in posing. I lost my son three months ago and tomarrow we placed him in the ground exactly three months ago. I would love to tell you it gets better but truly it doesnt you just find a diffrent nom. Here though will help you with your pain each and everyone of us is here for each other you will find comfort and reasurrance here well at least I have and I know other have two. Here you will find the support group you need to help strengthen you and get thru the bad days and rejoyce for the good. I will pray for you for comfort and healing. To answer your question what do you do before the better part COME HERE!!!! Hugs for you and your family Lyssa

[marylouise]

Carissa, I am so sorry for the loss of your son, there are no words...
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs

[Kerry]

Hello,
Glad you came here to find us all. You will find we all have something in common are stories might be different but it brought us all togather as one.
Your son is a true angel, cherish the memories of what you had with him and never be afraid to talk about him he will always be part of you and who you are.
After the funeral and the dust settled with people coming and going. One good process thing for me was just to sit down and write a Thank you to the NICU nurses and OB Nurses and my cloest friends and family that cared about us. I went out and took the time and bought nice cards that I thought that meant what I wanted to say and then put my paragraph also into it. At first all I did was cry writing it, but I was happy for the things they did for me and also blessed to count on so many people. Made me feel good inside.
You will find ways to get through each day but that is something that had to get done but was also a way to grieve how I was feeling at the time.
If you need anything or just want to vent just email me, I lost my baby Mallory over 2 years ago but some things come back that bring peace and other things I wish could of been different but all I can do is stay positive and help other families understand why we were chosen to take this path.

Kerry
Mother of Olivia,Sarah,Lane and Angel Mallory

[chloe's mommy]

carissa, i lost my little girl in march, it was so hard. im only 17. im so sorry to hear of the loss of your little boy. its true that everyone is there for you. i know ever since i joined i have had all sorts of support. remember don't morn his death, celebrate what life he did have. it makes it easier. my little girl was stillborn but i still celebrated the life she had in the womb.

[marylouise]

Sayla, you are wise beyond your years. I pray that you will find comfort as you are comforting others.
Hugs

[Brooke]

Carissa,

I think that everyone that has posted to you has said exactly what I would have said. Just remember we are all here to listen and to lend you support when you are having those really rough days, and eventually those rough days will start to lessen. Give yourself time. Grief is not a quick process. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

Love,
Brooke-Mommy to Carter,Ethan, & Angel Emma

[jaiew]

carissa13 i too found out about that my little man was sick at 20 weeks. think about the good things, i know its hard to think what was good in a pregnancy when you know so soon but you will remember special things that only you and he know. its like having secrets just between you and your son. a wise man told me 7 years after he lost his son, celebrate him, talk to him often and tell him to be a good boy. he has many little friends including my Carey. we lost Carey on April 30, 07 and monday the 21st he would have been a month old. you will have good days and bad days. on those bad days remember your allowed to cry, throw things scream and yell. no its not fare and no there is no good reason for it. but remember where he is he is looking over you every minute. if you are having a really bad moment it sounds weird but look up ask him for help, give him a wink and he will be there to help you through it.

[Kirk Kief]

Carissa,
Even though I have not walked in your shoes, or the shoes of so many of our families here, my heart still understands your pain, and I so badly wish I could utter a magic phrase that would take away your pain. Not your memories, as you need to always cherish your angel, the same as you cherish your other children, or future children. I pray, though, that you do find at least a slight bit of comfort by talking with our other members.
I'm so glad, and humbled, that you chose to join us here, and that you garnered the courage to make your self known to us, and to introduce us to your prescious son.

[chloe's mommy]

remember crying helps, talk about him when ever you need to, dont let anyone tell you to shut up about him. the pain will never totally go away, but it will lessen with years. there are the days were no matter were you are you will break down in tears. my mother told me something that i will always remember, "one day you will be calling all you kids for supper and still be looking for one more they are all there but your still looking for one, then you will relize that you are looking for chloe." in your case your son. we are all here for you if you need someone to talk to.

[linda]

Carissa,
Glad to welcome you here...we hope we can be here as a support to you during this very sad time in your life.

Time passes yes, does it get better :confused: Life becomes what it is...different...it will take time to work through the deep sadness then it will change day by day. I celebrate Ethan now...sometimes it's with tears but as my 8 yr old would say...they are happy tears. I know my son is in Heaven looking down on me. He brings me joy with the short life he did have and I find peace is knowing I will some day spend eternity with my beautiful son. It's been 11 months today...I wouldn't have nor could I have said that even 6 months ago. Take each day as it comes and don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow has worries of it's own.

Praying for you tonight.

[Lindzy Foster]

carissa,
though we are sad for your reason in being a part of our "group" we welcome you with open arms knowing the kind of pain you are feeling, we are here to support you whenever you need an ear or need to vent..i pray you find comfort and a safe place here with us....our daughter Kaydence will have been gone 4 months on May 28th, memorial day....and sometimes it seems like yesturday, but there are days when i can smile and remember things about her and my pregnancy and when i can cry but they are happy tears, and then there are very rough, sad, dark days when i dont know which way to turn but coming here and "talking" always helps....
Lindzy