Christmas Card 2007

[Cheryl Haggard]

Just finished working with Tasha for my 2007 Christmas Card. I have never gotten this done this early!
Definitely wanted to share these with you. Did something a little different this year. This is a front and back card only. No flip open message on the inside...Hope you like, and hope you are inspired....

Here is how you can contact Tasha Nichols if you would like her to work something out for your family:
http://www.simply-yours-creations.com/ (http://www.simply-yours-creations.com/)
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[Karla]

Cheryl,

It is absolutely beautiful!! Your family is so beautiful. Question though, what response do you get with respect to including Maddux in your card? I have reached the point where people around look annoyed when I bring up Cydney Paige's name, no one was interested in me having a memorial service for her, so sadly the day will come and I will be all alone with my grief and her memory. Thank goodness for my nilmdts family, you guys are my shoulders to cry on. I would really like to hear from you on this.

Love
karla

[carissa13]

Cheryl ~ your cards are beautiful, I'm inspired! My NILMDTS photographer just took pictures of myself and my older daughter. Going to be making a christmas card from one of the pictures. I found ways of putting Jarell in the pictures with us. I can't wait to get them back so I can share with everyone. I hope I can come up with something so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing!

[Cheryl Haggard]

Karla,
To answer your question, I simply do not care. (that is the SELFISH part of me-and believe me I have been called selfish alot lately) I have family (father one brother) that do not speak to me. Maddux is not about them, he is about me and my family. (husband & children) He continues to be part of MY family, even if WE are not part of theirs. If they have a problem, it is their problem. Not mine. I refuse to be burdened by their ignorance, or lack of compassion.

I am almost positive that when I send them their card, it will go in the trash unopened...

Karla, if it helps you to plan a memorial for Cydney, then do it. Plan it for yourself. You might be the only one there, but then again, you are the only one that matters right now...Don't have any regrets.

[Jessi Hill]

I agree with Cheryl.... WHO CARES what other people think. I include Tristan on alot of things (I sign his name with an angel wing and halo on the "T") Some people think I am wierd or nuts, but that is their problem... not mine. lol

Do what you need to do to feel a little better. I go alone to release a balloon on his birthday, because my husband thinks I am being silly. When I need to be close to him I hold his teddy bear or I go the the cemetary. Some people think I should be past this after 4 1/2 years, but then again they just lack the compassion to understand... so that is their problem.

PS Chery & Tasha, BEAUTIFUL work on the card!!!!!

[Cathy]

I feel the samw way I dont care what other people think
I had my cards done like every year with my kids on it and signed
Love
Robby, Cathy, Robert, Joseph Taylor and our Angel Torian

[Karla]

I think a big part of the problem for me is that I feel that my husband, Cydney Paige's dad will not support me on this. I cannot even get the strength to bring up the subject. Funny thing though, is that he feels that it's ok for him to talk about her out of the blue or speak to other people about his daughter, but if and when I do he finds things wrong about it, he does it the right way and I do it the wrong way. Is this how we grieve. separate and apart? Can he not be supportive of my way as I am of his way? I am tired of being looked at as a rock, I hurt too, I am the mother who carried her, who tried to nurse her and probably did more harm, I am the mother whose stomach was covered with itchy red rash with her, so I am the mother who wants to embrace her memory and talk incessantly about her.

Today I had the priest mention her name in memory of during the service, and I wanted so badly to wear her memorial ribbon, but did not because I did not want an argument to start the day, well maybe one day I'll just do it my way, Like Cheryl and the others,

Karla

[Cheryl Haggard]

Is this how we grieve. Separate and apart?

I think that men and women are so different, and I have experienced that...We each feel so alone, like we are the only ones that feel the pain, I remember feeling the pain and heartache, but honestly, knew that Mike was too grieving, but never really stopped to think about what he was feeling...Grief just consumes everything about you...And honestly, life is better now, than it was after Maddux died, not better than before he died...Don't missinterprete that...

But relationships do get broken. Mike and I have somehow managed to keep it together. We almost had a breaking point earlier this year...And I will admit, that I was the one that sought the counceling first. Then both of us together. I do have two relationships that have been severed...One with my father and one with my eldest brother. I personally do not believe that those are my fault...but for the sake of argument, I will take 25% of the blame. Shame on me and my grief...

Karla, is there somebody professionally that you can see and talk to? I am 100% all for counceling, therapy, whatever you want to call it. I think that if you can find somebody, outside of your family or friends to talk with, they will have the open mind...

I know your husband hurts, he just might not be able to share that hurt with you. As for your MIL, no advise there...

Below is a quote, that really stands true. Just think about it.
I put Cydney's name in front of it...


Cydney Paige,
As Long As I Live, You Will Live.
As Long As I Live, You Will Be Remembered.
As Long As I Live, You Will Be Loved.

[Karla]

Cheryl,

Thanks for the beautiful and powerful quote. I cannot understand why the world wants us to forget our loved ones, I try to tell them that I have moved on, even your guys can have seen that, but I will never ever forget my daughter, how can they not know that having Cydney Paige made our lives so much more meaningful, we hurt for her, we miss her, but would we have ever wish we did not have her so that we wouldn't hurt...........NEVER!!

I have rejected the idea of a counsellor many times, I did go to one right after Cydney Paige, she was young and maybe inexperienced, and I found myself playing games with her, maybe I have not found the right one, but I sometimes feel that they will not say anything to me that I don't already know. I am certain I am wrong as I say this! With regards to relationships, I have come to the conclusion that if the relationship does nothing good for me, instead it brings me down, then I am not going to work at it, and I too have severed a relationship and I don't have to say which one! There are some that I thought was so great before Cydney Paige only to find out after that they really did not care. I will continue to learn from everyone here on nilmdts and it certainly does help me.

Karla

[MeganN]

It doesn't matter if other people don't understand. Just because your child doesn't live physically with you anymore, doesn't make them any less part of your family. They are your child! They are part of your family forever!
Cheryl, your card is absolutely beautiful.
Love and hugs to you all,

[Karen Rubin]

Your card is wonderful! What a beautiful way to say hello and include your angel :p Maddux




Just finished working with Tasha for my 2007 Christmas Card. I have never gotten this done this early!
Definitely wanted to share these with you. Did something a little different this year. This is a front and back card only. No flip open message on the inside...Hope you like, and hope you are inspired....

Here is how you can contact Tasha Nichols if you would like her to work something out for your family:
http://www.simply-yours-creations.com/ (http://www.simply-yours-creations.com/)
Simply Yours Creations
Admin@simply-yours-creations.com (Admin@simply-yours-creations.com)