"Probably Wouldn't Be This Way"

[George]

Anyone heard this song? Would it be a good for bereaved parents?

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LEANN RIMES LYRICS

"Probably Wouldn't Be This Way"

Got a date a week from Friday with a preacher's son
Everybody says he's crazy
I'll have to see

I finally moved to Jackson when the summer came
I won't have to pay that boy to rake my leaves

I'm probably going on and on
It seems I'm doing more of that these days

[CHORUS 1:]
I probably wouldn't be this way
I probably wouldn't hurt so bad
I never pictured every minute without you in it
Oh You left so fast
Sometimes I see you standing there
Sometimes it's like I'm losing touch
Sometimes I feel that I'm so lucky to have had the chance to love this much
God gave me a moment's grace
'Cause if I'd never seen your face
I probably wouldn't be this way

Mama says that I just shouldn't speak to you
Susan says that I should just move on

You oughta see the way these people look at me
When they see me 'round here talking to this stone

Everybody thinks I've lost my mind
But I just take it day by day

[CHORUS 2:]
I probably wouldn't be this way
I probably wouldn't hurt so bad
I never pictured every minute without you in it
Oh You left so fast
Sometimes I see you standing there
Sometimes I feel an angel's touch
Sometimes I feel that I'm so lucky to have had the chance to love this much
God gave me a moment's grace
'Cause if I'd never seen your face
I probably wouldn't be this way

Probably wouldn't be this way

Got A Date a week from Friday with a preacher's son
Everybody says I'm crazy
Guess I'll have to see

[Aly Elliott]

I love the chorus! I think the chorus alone is wonderful.

[Jessi Hill]

I love this song and cried alot when I first heard it. Even though it is the loss of her partner I think it very well can represent the feelings we have in losing a child too.

[Kirk Kief]

This is a beautiful song, and if there was a way that we could get the required copyright releases to use it, it would be awesome!

[George]

I found this on you tube. Worth the look:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yBFlNBsvyxI

And take a look at the "How do I live Without You video" while you're there.

[linda]

That is an awsome song, I have a friend whose husband passed last year - I'm going to send this to her.

[Deb Stoner]

A gal sang this at the MISS conference in AZ. I just heard a song by Celine Deon that I love called Every Mother's Prayer. I think it could apply to a bereaved parent.

[CrystalW]

George... I like that song.. I don't know if you were just browsing for good songs but this is one song we had played at Addison's funeral. Thought I would share.

Life Ain't Always Beautiful
Gary Allen

Life aint always beautiful
Sometimes it's just plain hard
Life can knock you down, it can break your heart

Life aint always beautiful
You think you're on your way
And it's just a dead end road at the end of the day

But the struggles make you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has its own way of takin it's sweet time

CHORUS
No, life aint always beautiful
Tears will fall sometimes
Life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride

Life aint always beautiful
Some days I miss your smile
I get tired of walkin all these lonely miles

And I wish for just one minute
I could see your pretty face
Guess I can dream, but life don’t work that way

But the struggles make me stronger
And the changes make me wise
And happiness has its own way of takin it's sweet time

No, life aint always beautiful
But i know i'll be fine
Hey, life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride
What a beautiful ride

[George]

I'm always looking for new songs to add to my list. Take a look at my "Helping Bereaved Parents" document to see all the ones I have so far.

[Melanie]

This is a song I heard not long after Cara died. I went to find a sound link, but couldn't. The only one I found on YouTube was a picture video of twins lost at 21 weeks. (Go figure.) But I thought that might be too sensitive of a link to put up here, and so I'll just leave you with the words.

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With Hope - by Steven Curtis Chapman

(begins with a child singing 'Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so')

This is not at all how,
We thought it was supposed to be.
We had so many plans for you.
We had so many dreams.
And now you've gone away,
And left us with the memories of your smile.

And nothing we can say,
And nothing we can do,
Can take away the pain,
The pain of losing you, but...

We can cry with hope.
We can say goodbye with hope.
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no.
And we can grieve with hope,
'Cause we believe with hope,
There's a place by God's grace,
There's a place where we'll see your face again.

And never have I known,
Anything so hard to understand.
And never have I questioned more,
The wisdom of God's plan.
But through the cloud of tears,
I see the Father's smile and say well done.

And I imagine you,
Where you wanted most to be,
Seeing all your dreams come true.

'Cause now you're home,
And now you're free, and...

We have this hope as an anchor,
'Cause we believe that everything,
God promised us is true, so...

So we can cry with hope.
Say goodbye with hope.

We wait with hope.
We ache with hope.

We hold on with hope.
We let go with hope.

[Jessica VV]

Has anyone heard Gary Allen's new song Watching Airplanes, some of the portions of the song fit well for loss of a child. When I hear the song in my car I always look up or if I am outside and see an airplane I think of all of our Angel Babies.

Here are the song lyrics:

Sitting out here on the hood of this truck looking up
At a caramel colored sunset sky
Checking my watch doing the math in my head
Counting back words to when you said goodbye

Well those runway lights are getting brighter

I'm just sitting out here watching airplanes take off and fly
Trying to figure out which one you might be on
And why you don't love me anymore
Right now I'm sitting out here watching airplanes

I would've lied, could've cried, should've tried harder
Done anything to make you stay
I wonder what you'd do if you looked out your window
You saw me running down the runway just like I was crazy

But that fence is too high so am I

So I'm just sitting out here watching airplanes take off and fly
Tryng to firgure out which one you might be on
Any why you don't love me anymore

Right now I know you're thirty thousand feet above me
But a million miles away, a million miles away
By now I know I outta act like you don't love me

But I'm just sitting out here watching airplanes take off and fly
I'm just sitting out here watching airplances take off and fly
Trying to figure out which one you might be on
And why you don't love me anymore

Yeah, I'm just sitting out here watching airplances go by, by, by
I'm just sitting out here watching airplanes, baby bye, bye, by,
bye, bye
Yeah, I'm just sitting out here watching airplanes

[CrystalW]

George I heard this song on the radio today.. It made me think of Addison so very much.


3 Doors Down
Here without you

A hundred days had made me older
Since the last time that I've saw your pretty face

A thousand lights had made me colder
And I don’t think I can look at this the same

But all the miles that separate
They disappear now when I’m dreaming of your face

(CHORUS)
I’m here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
But you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight it’s only you and me

The miles just keep rollin
As the people either way to say hello
I've heard this life is overrated
But I hope that it gets better as we go

(CHORUS)
I’m here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind


I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
But you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me

Everything I know,
And anywhere I go
It gets hard but it won’t take away my love
And when the last one falls,
When it’s all said and done
It gets hard but it won’t take away my love

(CHORUS)
I’m here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I’m here without you baby
but you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl it’s only you and me

[Estrella]

Here is a good one...

Held by Natalie Grant

Two months is too little.
They let him go.
They had no sudden healing.
To think that providence would
Take a child from his mother while she prays
Is appalling.

Who told us we’d be rescued?
What has changed and why should we be saved from nightmares?
We’re asking why this happens
To us who have died to live?
It’s unfair.

Chorus:
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we’d be held.

This hand is bitterness.
We want to taste it, let the hatred numb our sorrow.
The wise hands opens slowly to lillys of the valley and tomorrow.

(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we’d be held.

Bridge:
If hope is born of suffering.
If this is only the beginning.
Can we not wait for one hour watching for our Savior?

(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we’d be held.

[George]

What do you think of this one?

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Qp0mxV65PDE
I Will Not Forget You - Sarah McLaclan

I remember the nights I watched as you lay sleeping
Your body gripped by some far away dream
Well I was so scared and so in love then
And so lost in all of you that I had seen

But no one ever talked in the darkness
No voice ever added fuel to the fire
No light ever shone in the doorway
Deep in the hollow of earthly desires

But if in some dream there was brightness
If in some memory some sort of sign
And flesh be revived in the shadows
Blessed our bodies would lay so entwined

Chorus
And I will oh I will not forget you
Nor will I ever let you go
I will oh I will not forget you

I remember when you left in the morning at daybreak
So silent you stole from my bed
To go back to the one who possesses your soul
And I back to the life that I dread.

So I ran like the wind to the water
Please don’t leave me again I cried
And I threw bitter tears at the ocean
But all that came back was the tide...

Chorus

[George]

Or this one by S.M. as well.


http://youtube.com/watch?v=vjn4we-6ol4
Do What You Have to Do

What ravages of spirit
Conjured this temptuous rage
Created you a monster
Broken by the rules of love
And fate has led you through it
You do what you have to do
And fate has led you through it
You do what you have to do ...
And I have the sense to recognize that
I don’t know how to let you go
Every moment marked
With apparitions of your soul
I’m ever swiftly moving
Trying to escape this desire
The yearning to be near you
I do what I have to do
The yearning to be near you
I do what I have to do
But I have the sense to recognize
That I don’t know how
To let you go
I don’t know how
To let you go
A glowing ember
Burning hot
Burning slow
Deep within I’m shaken by the violence
Of existing for only you
I know I can’t be with you
I do what I have to do
I know I can’t be with you
I do what I have to do
And I have sense to recognize but
I don’t know how to let you go
I don’t know how to let you go
I don’t know how to let you go

[JenniferBrown]

This song helped me a lot after I lost my babies. I wish I knew how to get a copy right release so we could use it.

Jesus Has a Rocking Chair
by The Greenes

Many hopeful moms and dads
Try to have a child of their own
Some will never get the chance
Others do and see them grown
And there are those who are expecting
That precious baby soon
But then it's gone before it ever leaves
The safety of it's mamma's womb

Jesus has a rocking chair
And He holds that precious baby
With oh, such tender care
He takes the place of mom and dad
He's the greatest parent a child could have
Don't worry about the children there
Jesus has a rocking chair

There are those who have a boy or girl
A lovely gift of God
But then sickness or a tragedy
Takes them from their parent's arms
Mammas wish for days gone by
Daddies long for that lost child
But the children are not lost
When you know where they are

She was eighteen and unmarried
Expecting her little one
But in her time of confusion
She took the life of her son
Since then Jesus forgave her
And took all her shame away
Still she cries missing her baby
But she hears the angels say

Jesus has a rocking chair
And He holds that precious baby
With oh, such tender care
He takes the place of mom and dad
He's the greatest parent a child could have
Don't worry about the children there
Jesus has a rocking chair

[Melanie]

I've been on the road driving back from the East Coast to Texas. I heard this song twice during the trip and just cried.

~~~~~

People say she's only in my head.
Its gonna take time to laugh again.
They say I need to get on with my life.
But they don't realize.

It's when you're dialing six numbers just to hang up the phone,
Driving cross town just to see if she's home,
Waking a friend in the dead of night,
Just to hear them say it's gonna be alright.
When your finding things to do not to fall asleep,
'Cause you know she'll be there in your dreams.
Thats when she's more than a memory.

Took a match to everything she ever wrote,
Watched her words go up in smoke.
Tore all the pictures off the wall,
But that aint helping me at all.

'Cause when you're talking out loud and nobody's there.
You look like **** and you just don't care.
Drinking more than you've ever drank.
Sinking down lower than you've ever sank.
When you find yourself falling down upon your knees,
Praying to God, begging him PLEASE.
That's when she's more than a Memory.

She's more, she's more.

'Cause when you're dialing six numbers just to hang up the phone,
Driving cross town just to see if she's home,
Waking a friend in the dead of night,
Just to hear them say it's gonna be alright,
When you're finding things to do not to fall asleep,
'Cause you know she'll be waiting in your dreams,
That's when she's more than a memory.

People say she's only in my head.
Its gonna take time to laugh again.

[George]

Just FYI, that song is "More than a Memory" by Garth Brooks. Thank you for mentioning it. I'm going to have to buy that one.

[Jessica VV]

Here is a Rascal Flatts song "What Hurts The Most". I hear this song at oddest of times--I feel it comes on the radio when Mark is sending me a message.

What Hurts The Most

I can take the rain
On the roof of this empty house
That don’t bother me
I can take a few tears now and then
And I just let ‘em out
I’m not afraid to cry every once in a while
Even though goin’ on with you gone still upsets me
There are days every now and again
I pretend I’m okay
But that’s not what gets me

Chorus

What hurts the most
Was being so close
And havin’ so much to say
And watchin’ you walk away
And never knowin’
What could’ve been
And not seein’ that lovin’ you
Is what I was tryin’ to do

It’s hard to deal with the pain
Of losin’ you everywhere I go
But I’m doin’ it
It’s hard to force that smile
When I see our old friends and I’m alone
Still harder gettin’ up, gettin’ dressed, livin’ with this regret
But I know if I could do it over
I would trade, give away
All the words that I saved in my heart
That I left unspoken

Not seein’ that lovin’ you
That’s what I was trying to do
Oooo, Oooo, Oooo –

[Carrie LaFollette]

My all time favorite is "Held" by Natalie Grant. I found so much healing with this song. I also think "A Mother's Prayer" by Celine Dion is very appropriate.

I love this one too. It's by Christian Artist Nichole Nordeman

I Am

Pencil marks on a wall, I wasn’t always this tall
You scattered some monsters from beneath my bed
You watched my team win
You watched my team lose
You watched when my bicycle went down again
And when I was weak, unable to speak
Still I could call You by name
And I said, Elbow Healer, Superhero
Come if you can
You said, I Am

Only sixteen, life is so mean
What kind of curfew is at 10pm?
You saw my mistakes
And watched my heart break
Heard when I swore I’d never love again
And when I was weak, unable to speak
Still I could call You by name
And I said, Heartache Healer, Secret Keeper
Be my best friend
And You said, I Am

You saw me wear white by pale candlelight
I said forever to what lies ahead
Two kids and a dream, with kids that can scream
Too much it might seem when it is 2am
And when I am weak, unable to speak
Still I will call You by name
Shepherd, Savior, Pasture Maker
Hold onto my hand
You say, I Am

The winds of change and circumstance blow in and all around us
So we find a foothold that’s familiar
And bless the moments that we feel You nearer

When life had begun, I was woven and spun
You let the angels dance around the throne
And who can say when, but they’ll dance again
When I am free and finally headed home
I will be weak, unable to speak
Still I will call You by name
Creator, Maker, Life Sustainer
Comforter, Healer, my Redeemer
Lord and King, Beginning and the End

I Am
Yes, I Am


Carrie

[Carrie LaFollette]

I love this one by Nichole Nordeman also:

Gratitude

Send some rain, would You send some rain?
'Cause the earth is dry and needs to drink again
And the sun is high and we are sinking in the shade
Would You send a cloud, thunder long and loud?
Let the sky grow black and send some mercy down
Surely You can see that we are thirsty and afraid
But maybe not, not today
Maybe You'll provide in other ways
And if that's the case . . .

(Chorus)

We'll give thanks to You
With gratitude
For lessons learned in how to thirst for You
How to bless the very sun that warms our face
If You never send us rain
Daily bread, give us daily bread
Bless our bodies, keep our children fed
Fill our cups, then fill them up again tonight
Wrap us up and warm us through
Tucked away beneath our sturdy roofs
Let us slumber safe from danger's view this time
Or maybe not, not today
Maybe You'll provide in other ways
And if that's the case . . .

(Chorus)

We'll give thanks to You
With gratitude
A lesson learned to hunger after You
That a starry sky offers a better view if no roof is overhead And if we never taste that bread
Oh, the differences that often are between
What we want and what we really need
So grant us peace, Jesus, grant us peace
Move our hearts to hear a single beat
Between alibis and enemies tonight
Or maybe not, not today
Peace might be another world away
And if that's the case . . .

(Chorus)

We'll give thanks to You
With gratitude
For lessons learned in how to trust in You
That we are blessed beyond what we could ever dream
In abundance or in need
And if You never grant us peace

But Jesus, would You please . . .

Carrie

[mise]

This song helps me believe that Joseph is around me which I'm finding very difficult to feel

It willl be me/Melissa Etheridge

If you hear a voice in the middle of the night
Sayin' it will be alright
It will be me

If you feel a hand guiding you along
When the path seems wrong
It will be me

There is no mountain that I can't climb
For you I'd swim through the rivers of time
As you go your way and I go mine
A light will shine
And it will be me

If there is a key that goes to your heart
A special part
It will be me

If you need a friend
Call out to the wind
To hold you again
It will be me

Oh how the world seems so unfair
Creating a love that cannot be shared
As you go your way and I go mine
A light will shine
And it will be me

Past the ever after there's a place for two
In your tears of laughter
I'll be there for you

In the sun and the moon
In the land and the sea
Look all around you
It will be me

There is no mountain that I can't climb
For you I'd swim through the rivers of time
As you go your way and I go mine
A light will shine
And it will be me
It will be me....
It will be me....

[CrystalW]

George.. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this song!!! We played this song at my cousins funeral. He passed away Feb 14th 2008 at the tender age of 25. :( This song also reminds me of my angel.

Shadows of the Day by Linkin Park

I close both locks below the window.
I close both blinds and turn away.
Sometimes solutions aren't so simple.
Sometimes goodbye's the only way.

And the sun will set for you,
The sun will set for you.
And the shadow of the day,
Will embrace the world in grey,
And the sun will set for you.

Pink cards and flowers on your window,
Your friends all plead for you to stay.
Sometimes beginnings aren't so simple.
Sometimes goodbye's the only way.

And the sun will set for you,
The sun will set for you.
And the shadow of the day,
Will embrace the world in grey,
And the sun will set for you.

And the shadow of the day,
Will embrace the world in grey,
And the sun will set for you.

[Guitar solo]

And the shadow of the day,
Will embrace the world in grey,
And the sun will set for you.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_eEE12R8Gw

[Jayme]

This is a song that was written for Prenatal Partners for Life, an organization dedicated to helping parents with a terminal diagnosis who choose to carry to term. If you click the link you can hear the song.

http://www.k4communications.com/karl/bittersweet.html

Down The Road Of Bittersweet

We had some good news and some bad news on a cold November morn
The test confirmed that we were parents, but there was something more
Our little boy had complications, and we were frightened as could be
But we decided to go walking down the road of bittersweet

The next nine months we grew together, somehow closer than before
And our faith began to blossom into something more
We would hold each other close and pray, then cry ourselves to sleep
We knew that God was walking with us down the road of bittersweet

Jesus, take my hand and walk beside me
And make my footsteps firm beneath my feet
I know You’ve gone this way before so guide me
I’m not alone as I go walking down the road of bittersweet

The room was filled with apprehension on the day that he was born
But when I took him in my arms I knew there was so much more
There was a bond of love between us, and I was never more complete
I never knew I’d find such blessing down the road of bittersweet

The doctor said we may not have much time before we’d have to part
So I treasure every moment deep within my heart
Soon we’ll have a little angel, praying for our family
I’m just glad I got to meet him down the road of bittersweet

Jesus, take my hand and walk beside me
And make my footsteps firm beneath my feet
I know You’ve gone this way before so guide me
I’m not alone as I go walking down the road
I’m not alone as I go walking down the road
I’m not alone as I go walking down the road of bittersweet

Words & Music by Karl Kohlhase

[David Hails]

Thank you again Jayme Lynn for letting me into your familys life.:)