How Men Grieve

[George]

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[Kirk Kief]

Personally,
I cry and I'm not afraid to wear pink.
This was a most interesting piece that you shared with us George. Thank you!

[Aurora]

Ohh George so insightful and well written as usual! Sorry I keep missing you I've been all together MIA lately =)

[linda]

So true ~ I loved it!!

[heatherlassell]

That was very well written George.

[heatherlassell]

Oh and I wanted to add.....it really helps me to THINK just a a little harder before saying anything to my sons. I am working very hard to ensure they will be not afraid to speak about their feelings and I never mock them for tears or emotions.

[momma to 2+ an angel]

Thank you for this, George

It really hit the nail on the head for me - I have been pulling myhair out wondering why Bob seems so "okay" while I am dying inside... I have been thinking things like I wonder if he even wanted our son, and if we should ever even think about trying again because he just doesn't care. I suppose he too is trying to deal with this on his own so not to "trouble" me but I am sitting here wondering why we even got together in the first place. Thank you for this, I truly mean that.

Jenn

[HAINAngel2000]

George your post is simple awesome!!! I would love to use an article like this in our newsletter! Wow that was amazing and will help me to understand my husband not only more, but more of what he went through when we lost our daughter. Thank you

[tstracener]

Thank you for writing this George. It helps me to understand what my husband is going through. I feel horrible that he works, while I sit at home to grieve for my Samuel. It is so unfair to him. He only got four days off for Samuel and I know that he hurts everyday. He is looking for a new job, so that we can have time to go to counseling, his job is all consuming (on-call 24 hours). Please pray that God shows us the right job.

Thanks again,
Tracy

[Marcus Momma]

I am glad you wrote this too. Now I can understand a lil bit better where my husband is coming from and going through himself. When my son died that was the 2nd only time I had seen him cry and the first time he let it all out so bad in 5 years. So I know how bad he had to have been hurting to cry more than once over the loss of our son. He started crying before I did actually. I was in shock that he let it out and it broke my heart because I knew how he had to have felt to let it out like he did.

[soledad]

WOW! Thank you George. Sometimes it's just hard to understand my husband, no emotions no crying, I just worder sometimes when is the bomb going to explote. He sure cried when Landon was taken away from us and when he gave the news to his mom, but after that all I heard was " All I want is to put this behind and move forward with our lives"/... and Im still trying to understand what happend to that baby that never came home. Why is that my basinet is an empty one, why is that insted of having a dobble stroller I only have a single one. Why is that Im looking for answers and he is just moving forward....??? just to think about it make my angry and mad at him. Is this normal? ??

[Madge]

Very excellent. Thank you for sharing this.

[Jet_119]

Thank you so much for sharing this.

[George]

Why is that Im looking for answers and he is just moving forward....??? just to think about it make my angry and mad at him. Is this normal? ??

I don't think it is so much that he is moving forward as men think it is best to suppress emotions. Yes, being angry at a spouse is normal, but not necessarily the best thing for a relationship. Please keep in mind that he is grieving, it is just may be different from your way of grieving.

[Brandijr]

Thank you George. I have been wondering why my husband does not cry with me when I cry. Why he doesnt like to talk about Emilee. Why, when I want him to cry with me, he gets frustrated. Thank you so much for this post. It really does help!!!!