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carissa13
01-26-2008, 03:56 PM
Yesterday I was filled with emotion, much more than usual. I had just found out my friend was pregnant and when I called her to tell her how happy I was to hear the wonderful new she seemed to be very reluctant to talk about being pregnant so I just kept talking in hopes I would put her at ease. It's so sad because my son passed away and it's nothing contagious but so many think they can't tell me of their babys. She always thought she could not get pregnant so I really was so happy to hear the news. She said one thing that hit home. She told me she was not telling everyone until she was out of the danger zone, ya know that magically 12 week mark. Anyone reading may have believed that same thing but knows to well that there is not a magically number of weeks. I bit my tongue and prayed so hard at that moment that God would bless her with a healthy child so she would have be able to understand how it feels to wear these shoes.
I was having a complete break down yesterday. From the time I left work I was bawling. I thought a good night sleep would help me feel better but I woke up feeling so angry. Yesterday was one year since I found out something was wrong with Jarell. Today is one year since a doctor told me my son was going to die shortly after birth if he even made it that far. My heart always seems to know the date better than my head does. I knew it was the 25th and believe me, I've been thinking about it but yesterday I did not think anything of it but knew my heart was growing heavier by the minute.
I will never forget how I felt that day. It was suppose to be such a joyous day, we were having our 20 week ultrasound, we were going to find out if our baby was a boy or a girl. We walked out of there confused and numb.
It is now official, this has been the worst year of my life. I'm praying for strength to find something positive to go forward with. That year is now over, maybe things will start to look up. At the moment it seems everything around me is falling apart.
I received an unexpected letter from my grama today so it made me feel better. I don't like to feel this way, I don't like to be angry.
Jarell, mommy misses you very much!

Cinbika
01-26-2008, 04:08 PM
My heart goes out to you.

marylouise
01-26-2008, 06:46 PM
Carissa, sending you hugs.

CrystalW
01-26-2008, 07:58 PM
(((HUGS))) I am too having a rough time as you could tell from my last post. I am dealing with the anger too.. And its weird because its directed towards almost everyone and everything. I wish that our friends could understand. I have friends like that too. That are pregnant and don't want to talk about the baby to me. I hope she will change her mind about that! Sending my prayers and hugs your way!

George
01-26-2008, 10:15 PM
Carissa,

Our hearts usually do know the dates better than our heads do. Remember, whatever you feel, happy, sad, anger, or whatever, it is 100% normal.

While we all greive differently, I've found that the 6 months to the 2 year mark are just as bad, if not worse than before. I hope it's not that way for you. But if it is, just keep in mind that even if we live to be 125, this life is just a mist compared to eternal joy with our heavenly children.

Jarell is cheering for you as loud as he can from heaven. He wants you to live a happy, joyous, fulfilled life. When it feels like you can't go on, try to remember what he wants for you and live your life that way for him. Jarell is not dead, he's just spending the night at his Grandpa's house.

George

carissa13
01-26-2008, 10:42 PM
Jarell is cheering for you as loud as he can from heaven. He wants you to live a happy, joyous, fulfilled life. When it feels like you can't go on, try to remember what he wants for you and live your life that way for him. George

George, thank you for helping me to remember that my sweet baby wants me to be happy. My heads know he wants that for me but it's my heart that needs to be reminded at times.
I've been in denial for a little while now and have put God on the back burner and I know it. I have to get Him out in front of me, He will help me find happniness in my broken heart.

Thank you to all of my post grief friends, you have helped me through my darkest days.
Carissa

Lyssa Sauer
01-28-2008, 08:15 PM
Oh hon sorry I am just now reading this I hope some peace has come to you. I know how those days seem to come and sometimes your not sure why you feel that way until you look at the day. Paytons 1 yr is soon approaching and I am filled with mixed emotions. I wish I could say something that would fill your heart but everyone know that isnt possible. I wish we werent a part of that special group but at times I know that I would be so blinded as well and never gotten to know all the special people I have met. Not saying that I dont wish my son was here but I never even knew this world existed till I was put here. All of our children are blessing never losses.