I am thinking of having another child

[Marcus Momma]

Me and my husband lost our son in November of 2007. I want to have another baby but i dont know if its to soon. Ecpecially since we are scared of the hospitals baby doctor cause he blew my sons lung out. And some family members think i am wanting to try to replace my son marcus. Its not the case marcus is marcus and i know that i just have a lot of love and happiness built up for a baby and no baby to give it to. I have my sons name on my truck so i dont know how anybody could think i wanna replace him. I am scared medically and am wondering if i am ready mentally. :confused: Will i feel any different being pregnant with another child?

[Kerry]

Hello
Glad you found us here! Sorry to hear about Marcus joining our little angels but he will never be lonely. He is in good hands. For having another child I think my opinion you should wait this is still fresh and hormones are racing in all sorts of direction. Give yourself time first then look at wanting to add more love for your family when your at peace. If your still scared your still in one of the emotions with dealing with your baby, you will go through different stages. I don't know if you have other hospitals in your town or close to. You need to f ind a doctor your comfortable with or it will make it hard on you through your pregnancy. I don't think ever people want to replace their babies its more I see to replace the sadness and remember memories but fulfill their lives with new plans and have a new outlook on life. I am glad I was able to have a successful pregnancy with the last child even though I had the same problems with my twins but I had the infection worse. I listen to my doctors and my blood doctor and I was always confident things would work out this time. So give yourself time and enjoy missing your son and taking time by collecting memories you want to have and making a album or a necklace why its still soon its good to write your thoughts down and look back to see how strong you are and what good you can do in Marcus name to help others. I am proud of you to take the first step and join the forum. We are all here on your good and bad days!!

Kerry
Mother of Olivia,Sarah,Lane and Heavenly Angel Mallory

[Lyssa Sauer]

Welcome,
Well as faras having another baby only you will know or well at least God will know when the time is right. I got pregnant only 4 months after. We knew we wanted another child within a year or so but I didnt think it would be that soon. You need to weigh your emotional state and physical. This has truly been a hard pregnancy for me. Although I am not sure any pregnancy would be normal after loosing a child so early in infantcy. I worry about everything, sometimes I feel like I didnt get to grieve as much as I want to. I still grieve but I try not to have breakdown in fear of what it may cause to baby. I am now 38 weeks pregnant. Although we werent preventing I sure didnt think I would get pregnant that soon. This is just my opinion you need to weigh and measure between you and your husband how much you can add to your emotional state because it has been terribly stressful for me.
Lyssa

[Lacey Canaday]

I am also trying to get pregnant again. I have gotten the same responce, that I am trying to replace Sophia. I know that I am not trying to replace her, but I was soo excited to have another one. Every month that I get my period I am brought to tears. This month I missed it all together, I went to the doctor and was told that I was not pregnant, he told me to relax and when it is ment to happen it will happen. I am soo upset and missing Sophia more than ever. I can see both sides to waiting and wanting to get pregnant agian. Do what you feel is right, but right now I still have not even gotten close to being better about loosing her. It will only make pregnancy more stressful if you are not mentally healed. I am only now starting to relize that.