Olivia Grace

[klosey]

On January 30th, 2006 I went in for a scheduled inducement the day after my due date. When my husband and I got there the nurses could not find a heartbeat. After an hour of searching and two ultrasounds our daughter, Olivia Grace, was pronounced dead. I was then told that I would be induced because having a C-section would be too risky. At that time the only thing the Dr thought it could be was a blood clot. I am 26 years old, very healthy and had a very healthy pregnancy and baby up until that point. I was in labor for about 8 hours and by 4:23 pm that day we gave birth to our sweet little girl. It was so bittersweet! The best and hardest thing I have ever experienced in my life. We were told throughout labor that we could hold her all we wanted, take pictures, and that our family could hold her as well. Holding her and taking our own pictures was the best thing we could have done. It was so hard to send her back to the nurses, but we knew it was time. We had a funeral and burial service for her that Friday and my husband and I could not believe all of the support we got during that time. Everyone laid roses on her casket prior to her burial. We wanted her buried in a bed of roses. Since then we have struggled through everything. This is our first child and we want to have more children, but our struggling with our loss of our beautiful daughter. We are seeking counseling and our counselor directed us to the NILMDTS service. The photographer here has instructed us on what to do since we did take pictures and would like to use this as we think this would be even more memorable. I just now started looking on this website and enjoy reading others stories as my husband and I have nothing else or anyone else to relate to regarding this. I feel as though everyone around us has moved on since two of our friends have had girls just two weeks ago and our nephew was born on Tuesday. Its been really hard to be strong lately. I try not to fell resentment towards these women who I love dearly, but its hard. My husband and I want her back and feel as though we were cheated in some ways. One day we will be blessed with another child, but it will never take the place of our Olivia.

[Jen Eagan]

Welcome, and thanks for sharing your story with us. My heart truly goes out to you and your husband.

May I ask... did they ever figure out what happened to Olivia?


Jen

[klosey]

The only thing they concluded after the autospy and the research on my placenta was a blood clot that started in the umbilical cord and ended up in her liver. They did tons of tests on myself and nothing came back except that next time to take baby aspirin. The experts say it was a case of just bad luck. :(

[Sandy "Sam" Puc']

Kacy,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I am glad that you were sent to this site. You will find that many of us, both parents and photographers have suffered the loss of a child. It is nice to have a place that at anytime you can talk about your feelings and know that this group really understands.

We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
With warm Regards,
Sam


Sandy "Sam" Puc'

[klosey]

Thank you so much! It is very nice to have people to speak with that have experienced something so tragic. It has actually given me a sense of comfort! Thanks again.

[Cheryl Haggard]

Dear Kacy,
My heart goes out to you as you grief the loss of your daughter, Olivia Grace...What a beautiful name. Thank you for finding the strength to share your story with so many others. I hope that the stories you read here from other parents will help you, knowing that you are not alone. We are all here to support eachother, and share in the memories of our babies. I hope that over time, your heart will once again find hope, peace and joy.
Blessings,
Cheryl

[Tammy]

Kacy~ Would just like you to know my heart and prayers are with you and your family as you start your healing journey. I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your daughter Olivia Grace, and I know this time is difficult for you and your family. If at anytime, you need to speak your mind, or want to express your emotions and feelings but are not sure where to turn, we are here... we DO understand, we have been there. Even though we all grieve in a different way, I believe it is safe to say that at some point in time we all share simular thoughts, feelings and questions. And I think at some point in time we all have simular experiences in dealing with what comes next and thinking about the what should have beens. We are here for your husband too, please let him know that. I'm not absolutley sure if my husband has visited the site or not, but there is some wonderful information posted here for dads too.