Not sure if they're pregnant?

[Cheryl Haggard]

Here is a good topic...
Not sure if someone is pregnant? Do you say something?

When I was registering my kids for school this past year, I think it was in August-(Let's see, Maddux would have been 6months old...) A lady came up to me, who knew that I lost Maddux, patted my tummy, smiled really big, and said, "Oh, you're going to have another baby...I am so happy for you!" (Remember, I haven't seen these people, probably since May...When school let out last year...)

Hello?
Ok, so I was wearing capri overalls, and didn't have all the baby weight off yet...Probably wasn't looking my best...

I politely told her, "No." Then I said...with kind of a laugh, "I just haven't lost all the baby weight, yet."
I know she was very embrassed that she said anything. But I let her know that it was ok.
I didn't break down and cry, but yet, it was still another reminder of losing Maddux.

(After that day, I was determined to lose the baby pounds...)

So-just general polite etiquette-Do not ask somebody if they are pregnant, (especially someone that has recently experienced the death of an infant) unless you already know for sure, or, if their water just broke all over your shoes...and the little baby's head is hanging out...LOL:p

[Kirk Kief]

I learned, years ago, that there are two things that a man never wants to guess about a woman. If he is wrong on either one, he's Toast!
Those two things are:
"Are you expecting?"
and/or
"Are you the Grandmother?"

[Jen Eagan]

Amen to that!!!

[Scott Hays]

I never talk to women, it's safer that way... in many ways. Cuts down on my clientelle, but it's safer

[Andrea Hillis]

I learned, years ago, that there are two things that a man never wants to guess about a woman. If he is wrong on either one, he's Toast!
Those two things are:
"Are you expecting?"
and/or
"Are you the Grandmother?"

Amen!

I'm a 37 year old grandmother, and I'm still not use to the idea...even tho I love him to pieces. My grandson is only 3 months younger than my youngest daughter. LOL! YIKES! :eek:

A.

[Jessi Hill]

I had the same thing happen... how irritating is that!!!! :mad: I am sure I wasn't as nice as you however. People have learned to back off with me a little since I lost my son and have had 5 m/c's, they barely dare ask even if they are close friends or family.:o

[Jen Eagan]

My mom is pretty much the only one to ever ask me anymore- and only then because she claims I'm being awfully "moody". Everyone else knows better. I'm fluffy enough though, I could probably hide a pregnancy for several months, because I already LOOK it!

[Jessi Hill]

LOL... I doubt that you are that "fluffy" I am terrible at hiding it, I swear I show right away (and I have plenty of fluff and stuff!!!:D ) But I get the "you sure are moody thing too!" and the "Are you sure there is nothing you need to tell us??" It gets annoying, even though they mean well. I stopped telling my mom anything about being pregnant a long time ago because she cannot handle her own emotions let alone support me.

I finally dug out the best pic I can find of me and our son. (he is gone with the angels here)

[Sandy "Sam" Puc']

Beautiful image Jessi,
Thanks for sharing.
Sadly, I must admit that I made the error of asking someone her due date one day at the park. She was obviously 8-9 months along. She was is a big shirt and stirrup pants. I died when she looked at me and "said I am not pregnant...Just fat.."
If I could have crawled under a rock I would have. AND I KNOW BETTER!!!!

[Sarah O'Neal]

Holy cow! I had a session at a park. My twins were 3. The man looked in my car at the two seats and said.. "Wow you are gonna have your hands full!" I said, "what do you mean?" ...
"Well, looks like you gottwo little ones...and with one on the way..."

What? I was mortified...and...he was spending money...so I just let him beilive it. Taking pictures of an embarrased man...not good!

But Cheryl....ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I mean really. You have the tiniest body! I am in shock.

[Tammy]

Never been asked whether or not we plan on having another child, except for my doctor. Of his 23 years of practice, Chase was the first baby he delivered and could not save so the whole experience was devastating for him.
My opinion... don't ask.
Speaking of baby weight, was recently at the doctors office of course have to step on that horrid scale. I was shocked. That's all I'll say about it... LOL