Counciling????

[Jesifer]

So I have heard from people I know very well who have gone through the loss of a baby say the thing they wished they had done most was go to counciling and still to this day regret they didnt. So I was wondering how many people have gone and if it has helped them very much. I have looked into going but all the places the doctor wants me to go are really far away. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone to talk to that wouldnt change the subject because they are uncomfotable and dont know what to say. Any suggesions?

[motherofthree]

My personal opinion is definitely, definitely do some counselling. It has been such a great help to me. She has helped me to find some light in all the darkness, some purpose in all of the senselessness. She taught me different ways to look at things. I saw mine two times a week in the couple of months following my Kavya's birth and death, and she kept me from sinking too low.

It is important to find someone that you connect with, and perhaps someone experienced in dealing with grief and loss. If you were here I would recommend my amazing therapist to you. Good luck...

[Stacy Holley]

Yes, I went and would advise to do so. Just to have someone LISTEN without squirming in their seat, eyes glazing over, or changing the subject. My therapist mainly just listened. I was able to tell her things that I just couldnt tell anyone else. I won't go into detail, but my DD actual passing was very traumatic (not peaceful AT ALL) and I had a pretty bad case of post traumatic stress disorder. It kept playing over and over in my head and she gave me some tools to "stop" the "recording". Good luck if you decide to do it. I think it would be good to at least give it a try.

[Brooke]

Yes, I highly recommend it too. My therapist was a great listener and gave me insight to things that I wouldn't have thought about. It was very therapeutic!!! Good luck in finding a therapist.

Brooke-Mommy to Carter, Ethan, Caden, &

[Rayna']

Yes, I highly recommend it too. My therapist was a great listener and gave me insight to things that I wouldn't have thought about. It was very therapeutic!!! Good luck in finding a therapist.

Brooke-Mommy to Carter, Ethan, Caden, &

I agree. I am seeing a counselor right now.

[owens_mom]

I seem to be in the minority. I hated counciling. I went to appease my OB and my husband. I started seeing her while I was still pregnant because my family has a history of post-partum-depression. I didn't get much out of it while I was pregnant and I got even less out of it after we lost Owen. The last visit I had with her, I told her that I felt like I was paying her to be my friend.

I am not saying that counceling is bad, it just did not help me much. Maybe a different person would have been better. Really, I have gotten a lot more help from reading and participating in this MB and an IVillage Stillborn MB.

-Stephanie