High risk doctors

[Candice]

After I lost my daughter I was told that in the future I would see a high risk doctor and now that I am pregnant again my OB no longer thinks I need to go to the specialist! They think they can handle it! I am stressed and would really feel more comfortable seeing the high risk doctor! What should I do?

[Kirk Kief]

Go see the specialist!

[amburke2]

I agree with Kirk. I think it would allay your fears even a tiny bit to have at least one consultation with the specialist. He/she can talk you through the medicine, what if it doesn't work, etc...all those thoughts that are running through your head anyway.

I'm praying for your peace.

[Kerry]

Candice
If i were you and what Scott told you see the specialist.. No doctor wants to look uneducated or insecure of his position. If he does not know the answers they usually go get advice. Specialist knows what to get for labs right away and has more time to take care of your needs. Remember it wouldn't hurt to get dad blood work up done so just to rule things out. With your condition it can come from both sides. Listen to your heart and do the what is best for you.Don't worry you won't hurt those doctors feelings they will find 3 more people to fill the 30 minute spot. This time is about you and all you and the baby. Take Care and thinking of you!

Kerry
Mother of Olivia,Sarah,Lane and Heavenly Angel Mallory

[Shelly]

Dear Candace,
It's a hard time to have to start, but advocate for yourself. I know we often feel funny askng for what we need, but you can do it. If you need a referral from your OB, then you need to express that.

There should be no reason that the OB shouldn't refer you for a consultation with a perinatologist.

Stamp your feet if you have to! Best wishes!!!!!

[Marcus Momma]

Dont feel uncomfortable do what you feel you should do so you won't have any bad feelings

[PJBAC]

Most definitely see a high risk perinatalogist. Not sure if it was determined what took your daughter's life, but knowing one way or the other can help prevent it again or anything else. At any point, if your regular OB wants to do a more thorough u/s, then most likely you will be sent to see a HRP doc. So why not get to one know one early on. The more help in your corner the better. Good Luck!

[Christine Barrack]

Having been in the same position myself I made the decision to talk to my OB and express my wishes. The OB gave me a referal to a high risk specialist. It was hard, as I loved my regular OB, and don't want to offend anyone. She understood also having an angel. I was able to see the specialist and my regular OB as it work out. My regular OB delivered, with the specialist on standby at the hospital.
Do what you need to do so you have no regrets. It doesn't matter what your OB or anyone thinks, only you.
I will be thinking of you.
Christine

[motherofthree]

I agree that if you feel more comfortable seeing a specialist, go for it! Tell the OB that while you have confidence in them (or something else placating), you would be much more comfortable seeing a high risk specialist. Remember -YOU are in charge of your medical care, and can take the lead!

[amburke2]

I will add that we saw a high risk doctor with Tiomthy because he had an abnormal ultrasound, but when we got the diagnosis (and 2nd and 3rd opinions confirming it) we decided to return to our regular OB to follow the pregnancy and deliver since the high risk specialist could not provide us with better care. So, there is the chance that the High risk doc will see you a few times, do higher level ultrasounds and any tests, and in the absence of evidence that he/she really needs to follow the pregnancy, recommend that you return to your regular OB. (The likeliest scenario for this being that your baby is healthy and developing normally.) Seeing a high risk specialist isn't necessarily cutting your regular OB out of the picture forever.

[Candice]

I finally talked to my normal midwife today and she said she would also be more comfortable if I saw a high risk doctor. She will be doing thhe referal right away! I feel sooooooooooooo much better!

[Kerry]

Yeah! Such Happy news for you! I am glad they responded so quickly for you. You will be in good hands!

Kerry
Mother of Olivia,Sarah,Lane and Heavenly Angel Mallory

[motherofthree]

That is wonderful news! I'm so happy to hear that your midwife backed your own feelings. I'm glad you'll be able to see the Dr. that you need to see - both for your peace of mind, and the health of you and your little one...

[MadiAidMak]

Do what makes you comfortable. I asked my doctor if I could see her more often and she was more than happy to do that.THey have also done more ultrasounds( i have had 5 so far) to put my mind at ease and see that all is alright. Discuss your fears with your doctor and see if they can recommend anyone. I hope that all goes well.