I told my parents I am pregnant again...

[Candice]

Well I told my parents I am pregnant again and they instantly burst into tears! They are afraid that it is to soon and that my body is not ready yet. They are also afraid that I could not make it through loosing another baby. I have a blood clotting mutation called MTHFR which is what caused me to loose my daughter and they are afraid of it happening again. The doctors have me on blood thinners and while the injections are painful my doctors seem confident. My sister was thrilled to find out I am pregnant again. I think it lifts weight off of her shoulders because she is pregnant and has fealt guilty about it ever since we lost my daughter. I just don't know how to handle the situation. I need comforting myself and I can not be comforting my family! Did anyone else get similar reactions from their families?

[JenniferBrown]

After several miscarriages, I got pg with my daughter (she's 9 now) and a family member made the comment "I'm not getting excited yet. Let's see if she can carry this one to term".

I feel your frustration sweetie... I'm praying for you still.

[Tricia Hackney]

You can certainly come here for support!! We'll lift you up in prayer and will always be wearing our cheerleading skirts for when you need a boost (okay, that's a bad visual for me - I passed that stage LONG AGO). Take comfort in the fact that the Dr.s are confident. Your parents are worried about THEIR baby, they still want to take care of you - you don't have to worry about them - you worry about you and your little baby - but not too much though (sorry, clear as mud, I know) God bless you sweet Momma and know that we are all here for you!

[Vicki]

Candice . . .

Congrats!!!
Apparently your body knows something that your parents don't . . . you probabaly wouldn't have gottne pregnant if your baby was not yet able to become pregnant . . . they are just being protective of you and of thier own sad feelings of the past. As you move forward in this pregnancy they will get happy too. They will follow your lead . . . so if you are happy, they will be happy too . . . and besides, it sounds like you have great Dr's looking out for you, anticipating any problems and that must be reassuring for you!!! I bet your sister is happy mostly because it will be a great adventure together as sisters, being pregnant and having kids that are the same ages . . . you'll be sharing so much with each other!!!
Again, congrats . . . and if you need comforting, call on us!!! We are on your side all the way!!! But I won't be wearing my cheer-leading skirt either!!! LOL (nice visual Tricia)

HUGS!!!!!!

Vicki

[Lindzy Foster]

Congrats honey on your pregnancy.....now about the family thing...im sure their hearts are in the right place they are just very very scared for you and for themselves....when my husband and I started ttc again after losing Kaydence we had said that we wouldnt tell anyone until we really started showing once we got preg....well that went out the window as emotionally we very much needed the support and love from our families...we found out around Halloween and held off telling them until the week of thanksgiving and like your family mine was very scared....my mom cried alot not sure of how she felt about it but with time she was my biggest supporter and there every step of the way....she attended some u/s with us and doc appts and just generally helped out with anything we needed...and she was there when we delivered our beautiful healthy baby last month....
all in all dont worry sweetie im sure they will get you the support you need it will just take a little time and in the meantime you can come here anytime and we will all be ready to listen! big hugs!

[Lyssa Sauer]

Hey hon I know this addes more stress for you when you feel like even your own family is mixed about the new baby. Trust me I know the fears that you will have. I cant say my parents were like what you are saying and I havent ever had that test done either just make sure you ask lots of questions google it be informed. Give your parents some time to diguest this news remember the grandparents grieve to. Sending prayers

[motherofthree]

Try not to worry about your parents! Let them worry about you - and pray for you! When I finally decided to let my secret out, it was because figured the more people praying for me, the better off I was. I agree with Vicki - if your body weren't ready, you probably would not be pregnant right now. Concentrate on you and your little one! Hugs,

[CrystalW]

I also have MTHFR. But my perinatoligist said it is not a clotting disorder. If you want to talk more you can PM me.. Congrats on the pregnancy!