Stuck on Bed Rest

[Sandi]

I started bleeding about 3 weeks ago and found out I have a blood clot by the placenta. I'm 13 weeks today, and heard the baby's heartbeat about a week and half ago. THe doc told me to stay home until 3 days after I completely stop bleeding and stay on bed rest. I had a heavy day the first day and 2 weeks ago, but other than that have been spotting continuously. I honestly thought it would stop by now. I've filed for short term disability so I should be covered as far as money goes, and my husband has been amazing trying to do the jobs of two people and take care of me. I just can't help but feel guilty! I feel like I should be able to do more. I'm following the doctor's orders but I don't feel like I should be incapacitated. I don't miss my job AT ALL, so that isn't an issue. I just feel like I should be able to do stuff around the house; dishes, laundry, etc. Has anyone else been stuck in this situation? I know I should take advantage of the rest while I can, and I'm doing what's best for the baby. I just feel like a bum.

[Tammy Fisher10]

Hi Sandi ~ I've never been in that situation before but boy I would sure enjoy it is my husband did everything around the house! I say that in a joking way ! Joking aside ~ you are doing what is best for YOU and the BABY. I know it must be hard, just be thankful you have a husband that is willing to do it. It sounds like you have a great husband, you are blessed, enjoy the rest. You will be in my thoughts and prayers !

[Austin's Momma]

I hear ya girl! I was on bed rest for the last two months of my pregnancy...and it was rough! (I had too much amniotic fluid and it made my body "think" I was farther along than I was.) It was weird because I felt just fine, but I had to lay down like I was sick or something. I wanted to clean the house and cook dinner--I actually like doing those things--but instead I had lie on the couch or in the bed and watch tv like a bum. It sounds like a vacation...but it gets old...real quick. Like you though, I did it because my baby needed me to. Whenever I thought about why I was being a bum, it was easier. I talked to him a lot (since it was just me and him in bed most of the day) and I'm thankful for all that QT we spent together. I loved reading books and had my laptop next to me all the time. T.V. was okay, but watching it made me feel more like a bum. My husband rented video games for me (and let me tell ya...I was no video game player before, but I was a pro after a few weeks.) My husband used to call me and ask if I was "working". The first time he asked, I said, "No." Then he told me that my job was to be in bed...and I said, "Well then ya, it's a busy day here at the office." Your job right now is to be in bed--so you're not being lazy--you're working hard for your little one. I wish you the best! ~Sarah

[MamaBethany]

When we were waiting for Bethany's birth, I was put on bedrest for a few weeks. We had relocated to the big city for the last few weeks of our pregnancy, to be close to the big hospital that could do her heart surgery. We were staying with my sister-in-law. I felt so guilty for just staying in bed all the time, even though it was what the doctor ordered. Actually, I didn't MIND being in bed, I enjoyed the rest and peace.....but the responsible part of me wanted to help. Whenever I did get up and try to do something, they yelled at me to get back in bed.

Anyhow, I know how you feel. Stay in bed, dearest, and take care of Riley's little sibling and yourself! There are a lot of things you can do in bed! I'm praying for you and the little one!

[Lisa Kammel]

I was on bedrest for all three of my pregnancies because of an incompetant cervix. In the end I managed to carry all three to 37 weeks and had healthy babies. In my second pregnancy I had bleeding for almost the whole second trimester. I pray that all goes well with your bed rest. I talked to the babies the whole time amd rubbed my belly.

[efswsjuly17]

Praying for you. Do as the doctors say. don't risk it, life is too precious.

Brandy

[Christine Barrack]

Sandi,
I know you want to help and get out of bed. It is hard-been there myself. But right now your job is to stay in bed and take care of that little one. It is hard work so don't feel that it isn't. If doctor allows you could fold laundry, organize your recepie book or photo albums if someone can get them and bring them to the bed for you.
I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there.

[motherofthree]

This has not happened to me, but I can imagine the boredom and that feeling - that you should be doing more. Get someone to bring you lots of things you can do...have you ever tried your hand at cross stitching? You could try and do some easy patterns that they have available like for baby bibs and stuff? Maybe like Christine said - folding laundry, or other things you can do without getting up?

I hope you get up and around soon, and that everything clears up. Take care,

Beth

[Angel_skye_in_heaven]

Please don't feel guilty. I was in your shoes, feeling guiltly for not be able to do things. I wish I could take that feeling all back.

I was on bedrest 6 weeks before I went into labor. I was on bedrest at home, but got up and helped my daughter with something and started bleeding that night, and then never stopped till my daughter was born (we are talking major clots etc).

I don't know your history, but have they tested you for blood clotting disorders?

So please please please, stay in bed. Let everyone do everything for you and try not to feel guilty. Keep that little one safe!! Just think, laying in bed is your job right now!! That's your job to protect your little one!!

My heart goes out to you.

[Christine Barrack]

Sandi,
How are you doing? I have been thinkig about you.

[Sandi]

Hi Christine, I'm doing alright, thanks for asking. I've been SUPER nervous the past few days, anticipating our appt tomorrow. Other than that I've been keeping busy. The quilling stuff you sent me is fun. I haven't done it a lot but I've enjoyed what I did. I'll probably post on the forum when we get through our appt and get the results of the u/s.

[Christine Barrack]

Sandi,
Glad you are doing well now. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted-hope to see an u/s picture tomorrow and hear excellent results.