I Am So So So Angery, Mad, In Pain, Horrified, In Shock, Sickened, Appalled, Dismayed

[lizabeth]

I AM SO SO SO ANGERY, MAD, IN PAIN, HORRIFIED, IN SHOCK, SICKENED, APPALLED, DISMAYED, TRAUMATIZED, INFURIATED :(



I am sorry, I know that I have not been on for a little while but I needed to tell you guys what has been happening, please I am sorry to have to tell you all this but I need to vent....



Yesterday Katherine Elizabeth marker was finally placed at her grave, but unfortunately many thing were wrong with the marker, one of the main things was that I was able to see her cradle through the hole of the vase from the top of were the vase goes into the ground, well it gets worse. When I called the funeral home today to tell them they quickly responded, but I never even imagine what the action of this day would bring. The funeral called my husband around 2:30 pm to tell him that the reason we could see Katherine's cradle in the ground was that when they buried her on Feb. 15th they did not bury her deep enough, and that when the grounds person that placed the marker (WHICH IS AN STUPIT IDIOT, THAT HAS NOT HEART, TO BEGININNG WITH HOW COULD HE NOT HAVE SEEN WHAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN. – AM SORRY I AM JUST SO LIVID) he cracked the top of the lid of the cradle so they needed our permission to exhumed her little body so that they could change the cradle she was in and dig a deeper hole, and they need to do it ASAP because they did not want any damage to her little body......

So we gave them permission to exhumed my precious Katherine Elizabeth’s little body today, they had to move her to the funeral home, and they assured me that her little body and beautiful white little dress was not damaged and that no dirt or water entered her cradle, but at this point I just don't believe them..... My precious Katherine Elizabeth was buried a 2nd time around 3:20 pm today and my husband, family and I re-lived that heartbreaking day in which we burred our precious Katherine Elizabeth the 1st time on Feb. 15th, and all of this today the 4th month since her birth and death.



There were countless AM SORRY from the funeral home, and that they could not explain since something like this THEY SAY has never happened. They are going to refund us the cost of the marker and the cost of the funeral, but to me that is not the point, the point is that this should not have happened.....No refund of money could elevate the pain we had to go through today.

I am sorry to all of you but I needed to write this, I needed to vent, I needed to tell you all because only you guys could understand my pain & sorrow.....

Liz

[Karla]

I am so sorry that you had to go through this, you have a right to be angry. This would hurt to live through all this again. I hope that you can feel some sense of peace soon, I know such pain never really goes away, so reliving it all over is not fair to you.
My sincerest regards to you and your husband,
karla

[Sandra Rodgers]

Lizabeth-

My heart broke twice for you. I can't imagine your pain, grief and anger. You have every right to be pissed. My heart goes out to you and your family. May your higher power give you strength in very trying times.

Sandra

[Deb Stoner]

Lizabeth,
I am so sorry. I just don't know what else to say. There is just nothing to say. I am angry right along with you. I have been angry at the people at our cemetary as well, for different reasons. I can't even explain the extent to which I have been angry and can't imagine yours. You want everything to be perfect for your little girl and when you have no control, you feel out of control. I am so, so sorry!

[Angi Caples]

My heart aches for you. I wish I could just wrap my arms around you. This is so unbelievably horrific that you must go through this.

You are in my prayers.

God Bless,
Angi

[HAINAngel2000]

I read thi an relate. My little Mariah was moved from one part of the cemetary to a different part [long story] but to make it short they cracked the tomb [or cement thing] as put her casket in a PLASTIC storage box to bury her instead of making another one!! I know the heart ache. My little Mariah still needs a headstone after 6 years! Still hard for me to go to the graveyard.

[Tammy]

Lizabeth,
I'm so so very sorry you and your family have been put through this.... I'm at such a loss for words. Don't ever feel you need to be sorry for sharing your thoughts and feelings, thank you for telling us what you are going through, that is why we are here.

[erinm]

i too have had problems with the cemetary. We have been waiting a long time for Tyler's marker. We paid extra to have it personally done and have Tyler's exact footprints on it. We explained exactly how we wanted it to look. Well finally, I called to see why it was taking so long. And they admitted they lost our paperwork and basically forgot about us. So, after many sit down talks with them explaining to them how we want the marker to look, the marker came last week. Well, it was still wrong. The baby footprints are the size of a toddler. We gave them photocopies of the footprints and I dont understand how they could have done this. Tyler was 2 lbs 4 oz. His feet are tiny.

Well, they said they would look into it and get back to us. Guess what? They still have not called and his marker is sitting in the ground wrong! I feel like I am getting slapped in the face over and over.

Also, we bought some blooming rememberances from the funeral place, that are seeded hearts. Well, none of the seeds cames up. All of them were duds. It really hurts because that was one of our ways of remembering Tyler by having a garden of his seeds.
I really like the cemetary where Tyler is buried, but they have done a poor job of follow through.

Erin
mom to TYler Joel 3/3/06 t-18 angel in heaven

[lizabeth]

Erin,

It is amazing to me to now hear that I am not alone in the pain, and frustration of how careless the administrations of cemeteries are being with the care of our beloved child. Today we have a meeting with Upper management in the hopes that this never happens to any other family. I am truly sorry for your pain, I hope that their carelessness with your babies mark get resolved quickly, be on top of them, if need be call them everyday, maybe this way they will get something done quickly just to get you off of their hair.

My heart & prayers will be with you, and thank you for replying to my thread.

Liz