Totaly Lost...

[Jennasmom]

On Friday April 3rd I went to the doctor with what I thought was a very bad flu. After a quick urine and blodd test the doctor came in and said, " I think I have good news, your going to have a baby". I said, "your a couple of days late for April fools you know I can't have children...and besides I'm 51 yrs old". I wait for the blood test to confirm what the doctor had told me before breaking this news to the hubby. He thought it was a joke too.

We got over the shock quite quickly and were starting to get use to the idea and also very excited...all emotions at once. On the 1st ultasound they could tell it's a boy, isn't technology wonderful.

Then my ob, whom I have gone to forever sent me to a high risk doctor due to my age (which I wasn't happy about) and because he didn't like the results of my lastest bloodwork. After multipule test they finally told me the baby is not developing right! Great way to tell you something is very wrong....the doctor finally sat us down and explained the entire prognpsis to us. My baby boy has Trismony 18 and probably will only live a few minutes at most after delivery if I carry to term. He explain all the things wrong with my son, his kidneys are enlarged, 2 holes in his heart...and I think I stopped listening at that point.

I guess now the decisions start...

[Abigailsmommy]

Sherry, I am so sorry to hear this. I am also sorry for the loss of your daughter. I don't know why bad things like this have to happen. It's so unfair. Just know we are all here for you anytime you need a shoulder. This forum has been the biggest help to me since losing my baby girl Abbi.

Sending hugs and prayers you way
Jenni

[Mullin987]

I am sorry to hear about what you are having to figure out and decide. It is a tough decision for some people to make. Again, I am sorry you have to hear and deal with this.

[KEA's Mom]

Sherry,
I am so sorry to hear your news. I will be praying for you, your husband and your sweet baby boy. We're all here for you to talk to. There have been other parents on this forum faced with similar situations--they are wonderful to talk to if you feel so inclined. We only wish there was more we could do for you.
Take care,

[macsquad33]

Prayers to you as you go about with all the decisions that have to be made. Only you know what is right for you - please don't let anyone judge you. We are always here for you whenever you need us and you are in my prayer book now. Hugs tonight.

[Christine Barrack]

Thinking of you. I am so very sorry. Know you are not alone and among those that can support you.
I would echo Kristin's suggestions. If you are interested please read the post by Madge on her son Dekar, there is a link in her signature to her site with some very helpful information if/when you are ready.
Blessings,
Christine

[smileyone6969]

just remember that your little peanut might suprise you.I have heard of trisomy 18 babies living as long as 3 months.So hang in there and take every moment as if it was your last. cherish every little movement and just love your baby for who he is. I am proud of you for making the hard decision to carry to term. God gave you that little miricle on loan.They dont really belong to us but for a short time before going home.
Becky
you will make it through this it will be tough but we will be here for you.

[gtownherd]

I had 4 wonderful days with my baby girl, she also had trisomy 18, she was worth carrying to term

[Lisa Kammel]

I had a friend that had a "Perfect" pregnancy ( no abnormal tests results during pregnancy). At birth they realized that not everything was "pefect" ( in the doctors eyes). Their beautiful "Perfect" ( in their eyes) son lived for 10 wonderful months!!!!!

[Lisa Kammel]

I have another friend that delivered a baby that they didn't know had T18 until after birth. She is still a fully robust little girl at 16 months. The small hole in her heart resolved but her kidney problems did require surgery to repair. Otherwise she is healthy. Keep the faith!