Children Need Healing Too...

[Tammy]

After finishing breakfast this morning, my six year old son wandered into the computer room where I was casually viewing the NILMDTS website. He saw the screen with all the babies photographs, and wanted to know what all their names were. I told him these were the pictures of all the little friends Chase has with him in Heaven. He wanted to see Maddux's video; I proceeded to load it and we watched it together. He then asked to see Chase's video, again I found the link and loaded that. As soon as the music started, my two year old found his way into the computer room and immediately stated, "Baby Chase."
It's amazing to me, how (even at two yrs. old) he correlates the music with his baby brother, and every time we are watching the video, he makes the same statement, "Baby Chase is sleeping." It takes all I have to swallow the tears I feel swelling. I simply say to him, Yes Jacob, Baby Chase is sleeping. (Sleeping in Heaven)Another thing I noticed is while I am watching the video with my kids, Rorey will glance back at me every so often, as if searching for hints of tears. Then with out saying a word, he will lay his head on my shoulder and give me a hug, as if to say, I miss him too mom...
He told me today he was happy that we had this video and these pictures, because whenever he feels like he misses Chase, he can look at them and it makes him feel like he is talking to his baby brother. This helps with his healing.
Out of curiosity, I asked Rorey if he wanted to say anything to Chase what would it be. He thought for a moment and replied, "I would tell him I love him and he is the best brother I could ever have. And I would give him a big kiss and a big hug, but not too hard because he is still just a baby." Then Jacob will say, "I love Baby Chase too!" Yeah~ I'll say it... my kids are great, and are true blessings. I can't help but to think Chase would have followed in the same foot steps of his brothers.
This just goes to show, children need healing too. It's easy to get so wrapped up in our own heartache and grief, we tend to forget (although not intentional) how this experience affects others, especially siblings.